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Unlearning Strongwoman Podcast

Unlearning Strongwoman is a podcast hosted by Tolu Agbelusi, holding space for intergenerational conversation with women from around the world to interogate and process the processes through which we step into ourselves, unravel and reclaim what we mean when we speak of strength and discuss the many things we unlearn to become our best selves.

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Unlearning Strongwoman Podcast

28. I Can Choose to Be in Bondage or I Can Be Free - Tolu Agbelusi

December 31, 2025 • Tolu Agbelusi, Diana Onuma • Season 3 • Episode 9

This month we abandon regular programming as podcast host Tolu Agbelusi takes the hot seat and is interviewed by Diana Onuma who was our guest in November 2025. Tolu is a poet, playwright, editor, artist and former lawyer. She is also the author of Locating Strongwoman. She shares her journey of creative self-expression, exploring themes of authenticity, legacy, and the complexities of mother-daughter relationships. She reflects on the impact of her work, the challenges of unlearning societal and family expectations, and the importance of self-acceptance. Tolu emphasizes the need for open communication in relationships and the value of embracing discomfort for personal growth.

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